Supal, Bihar31 minutes agoAuthor: Rahul Kotial
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Mastara Bano will turn 50 next year. But even today, she says she is only 32 years old. Perhaps by doing so they are hoping to get married. Mastara, who has lived 50 spring lives alone, fears that even the last hope of marriage will be shattered if she reveals her true age. Will go.
Mastara, standing at the middle-aged man’s mouth, is also keeping alive his dream of entering into married life. The panchayat where Mastara lives, hundreds of women suffer like them. It is the duty of these women to remain virgins for the rest of their lives. If these women make this decision at their own discretion, there is nothing wrong with that.
However, Sher Shabadi Muslim community traditions mean that two out of every ten girls are unmarried. Kochaga panchayat is located in the Supal district of Bihar, about ten kilometers from the Nepal border. Most of the Muslims in this predominantly Muslim area belong to the Sher Shabadi community. In addition to this panchayat, people belonging to the Sher Shabadi community also live in many other districts in Seemanchal and in Nepal.
Zaibun Nisha, 60, with her brother Zia-ul-Haq.
Mahaboob Alam of Kochgama says, ‘The girl’s family in the Sher Shabadi community does not want a relationship for their daughter or ask anyone to do so. If they do, it means that there is definitely a flaw in the girl looking for a boy for him. Then the girl’s marriage will be more difficult. ‘
“The girl can only wait until she gets in a relationship,” he adds. Therefore, for whom the relationship comes, they get married, but those who do not fall only wait for the relationship. ‘
Abu Hilal, a local social activist, explained, ‘The problem of women not getting married has intensified since people started falling prey to dowry greed. Now it is easy to marry beautiful or girls who have the money to give dowry.
Girls with short stature, not fair complexion or not having good non-maps will not get married. Sometimes out of two or three sisters, the boys like the younger sister. In such a situation, the little girl gets married before the big girl and then the big girl gets married which is very difficult.
There is no latest information on the total number of unmarried women in the Sher Shabadi community. However, according to the recently published book ‘Ruktapur’ by senior journalist Pushyamitra in Kochgama panchayat a few years ago, the number of unmarried women above 35 years is more than 140.
While this number is very large in a single panchayat, this number is definitely in the thousands out of the total population living in several districts of India and Nepal.
Shah Jamal alias Lal Mukhia, who was twice the chief of the Kochgama panchayat and contested the assembly elections from the Congress in 2010, said the entire society had convened a meeting a few years ago to resolve the issue. About seven years ago, people from the Sher Shabadi community living in different parts of India and Nepal joined this conference and now the girls also decided to start finding a relationship or take the initiative.
Lal Mukhia said, ‘This initiative has a lot of impact. Now the number of unmarried girls is very low. Now girls like boys and they get married. The other people in the village do not agree with the Red Chief. Abu Hilal says, ‘Nothing has changed even after that meeting. People still don’t go with a girl relationship.
It is clear that it is very difficult to believe what the Red Chief is saying to the girls to look for the boy even while running in Kochagama panchayat. Even today, there are hundreds of guards for girls in the community when they leave home, they are not even allowed to work or work and they can only study in madrassas.
Shahina Parveen, who works for The Hunger project, has raised the voice of these women many times. Shahina Parveen believes that one of the steps to be taken to overcome this problem is to make girls educated and self-sufficient. “If these girls come out, study well and start doing jobs, they will definitely get out of this problem too,” she says.
However, this is very difficult to happen in a Muslim community living in rural areas. The clergy there suggested that all girls be confined to madrassas and that people only follow them. Instead, clerical teachings have a strong influence on girls as well.
The problem has been exacerbated by the fact that Abu Hilal, a local social worker, is unmarried since people began to fall prey to greed for dowry.
Even girls who are unmarried cannot claim their parents’ property. If educated girls cannot do this, it makes no sense to expect this from illiterate village girls. In such a situation, those girls always feel burdened by their brother and they feel sorry for the brother and believe that the brother is helping them.
With elections looming in Bihar, the issue of these thousands of unmarried women belonging to the Sher Shabadi community will not be a topic of discussion for anyone. There is no debate on this issue in the Assembly area where there is a majority in this community.
Shahina Parveen says, ‘Many of these women are suffering from malnutrition and anemia because they do not get two days’ meal. People who do charity in Ramadan fill their stomachs.
At the policy level, nothing has been done for them to this day. These women are not even entitled to the pension available to widows, but they are, as a result, living alone and helpless as widows.
These unmarried women do not blame anyone but their luck for their situation. But, no matter how much she wants the government, when negotiations are underway to make the whole country self-sufficient and the slogan ‘Self-sufficient India’ echoes from place to place, the government should also take some initiative to make them self-sufficient.